It was midafternoon and I was driving my new car home from an appointment with Jared. I had just bought the car two months earlier as a present for my 50th Birthday. I had a fun time with Jared that day. Effective treatment with a bonus happy ending. It’s our usual way of doing things and we enjoy our arrangement. How far we’ve come..
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If I had nickel for every time I’ve been told, “you have no empathy for other people”, I’d have an alarming number of nickels.
Alarming because I’m always shocked that people see me that way but also because it isn’t true.
Or maybe it is?
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Sometimes it’s best to just keep driving.
I was on my way to see Jared. His office is 34 miles from my house but it’s worth the drive. I had a legitimate need for his services and, of course, an ulterior motive.
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Not to put too fine a point on it, but that’s exactly right.
I don’t think of myself as a liar. I’m an engineer. I almost never tell lies. Lies are dangerous and they’re a lot of work. Lies are unsophisticated at best and they take up a huge amount of working memory. Lies require backstories and supporting evidence. You never know when a lie will come unraveled due to factors beyond your control.
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OMG, the van is his! I don’t know where it came from, if he bought it or he already had it. But the timing in which it appears matters.
Two weeks ago Alphonse went to a national gathering of motorcycles out in the middle of the desert with his wife and his brother and his brother’s wife.
He was gone for a week and I found myself unexpectedly distraught during that time. A couple months ago he went on a cruise with his family and I felt the same way.
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The technical challenges of carrying on a relationship with Alphonse are numerous. Like, too many to count. They’re not my challenges, they’re his, and one of them is that his place of business is not a suitable location for shenanigans.
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2025 was an incredibly challenging year for me.
Right out the gate my best friend, Monique, dies of MS. At exactly the same time, things with Jared spin dangerously out of control, forcing me to step away from him temporarily. But we weren’t done, fate had other ideas. I got really sick and then rolled an ankle walking down stairs and became grievously injured. The wizard might be broken and crazy but he’s still a wizard. Aside from that, I promised I would not abandon him. I went back to Jared.
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The worst part about you-know-who being president, again, is..well, everything. But aside from the rampant stupidity, endless lies, war crimes, pedophilia, incoherent babbling, and unmitigated audacity – the worst part about him being president is everyone else.
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Sometimes the real work we’re called to on to perform has nothing to do with our job. When we feel put out and frustrated by an older relative demanding help with a menial task, or a friend having a life crisis; when the demand for our time, attention and wisdom makes us feel angry or resentful because of the “work” we’re not getting done, it’s important to consider which “work” it is we’re actually called on to do.
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No Rest For The Wicked 